The question that most men ask at least once, if not plenty of times is what do women want? More specifically, what do women REALLY want? Well according to a FoxNews Magazine's interview with Dr. M. Gary Neuman, it’s quite simple, and I agree.
When asked this question many women (and men) will usually start off with a list of personality traits and characteristics like, ‘oh, I want someone who’s funny, charming, committed’, you name it, they’ve said it. But those should not be taken too seriously.
First, women want the little things that make the greatest difference such as, kind gestures that show appreciation like random kisses, hugs and ‘I Love You’ moments will surely swoon any woman and I mean for the long-haul.
One thing that we often take for granted and tend to overlook is time. The amount of time couples spend together without the company of others makes a significant different in the happiness on both sides. Spending a minimum of 30 minutes or more with your significant other alone during the day makes all the difference.
Another important factor that is usually the spark to multiple arguments is feeling and being understood or vice versa. But many men feel they cannot understand women in any shape or form because women need to be more direct and to the point.
Men don’t enjoy sitting on their bums for 12 hours, listening to long emotionally driven, monotonous conversations and neither would we if you think about it. So if women feel misunderstood, tell men explicitly the amount of time you need for him to listen and say what you need to say. In the end, both parties will feel appreciated and understood avoiding misdirected arguments.
And last but not least, women (and men) need fun. That means, fun away from all of the stress in life, work, possibly kids, bills, all the ‘life stuff’ we deal with on a daily basis. So, Dr. Neuman suggests having a date night at least once a week away from everyone, even if you’re tired and cranky, get out and do something fun.
All in all, men and women are both complicated beings with different goals and expectations; the most important quality is being direct in terms of communication and willing to understand the others point of view. So, I hope this helps and have fun!